Being in a new place and surrounded by fun people is amazing. But what do you do when you start to miss home? It can be tough, and sometimes alienating, to be missing the place you came from when so far away. Especially when you have been so excited to come to this far away place this whole time!
So, here is a list I’ve been putting together to help myself and others deal with homesickness while abroad:
DO try something new. Homesickness usually sets in just after you have gotten comfortable in your new city, so one way to combat it is by switching up your new routine! Talk to someone new in class, find a fun café or museum to visit, or even try some new cuisine.
DON’T force yourself to have fun when you don’t have the energy. Take a day off, find a nice movie or a good book, or take a particularly long and restful shower. Sometimes homesickness is just a result of overexertion, so remember to take a break amongst all the fun, and don’t feel as though you are missing out – you are only gearing up!
DO get a taste of home. If that thing you miss so much is a burger, a Starbucks iced vanilla latte, or a chipotle bowl, then go munch away on the sweet taste of home! Whenever I miss California, I am itching for some tacos! And yes, they are never as good, but I swear, those German tacos taste better to someone who misses and appreciates them!
DON’T disregard the local cuisine. While an occasional Starbucks trip is totally okay, try to take advantage of all the new opportunities for foreign cuisine you have. In fact, it’s normally much easier to find a currywurst (Berlin delicacy) or a trust Doner kebab than a New York bagel. And you might find that you enjoy it even more!
DO talk to someone about it. Whether it be a parent, grandparent, or best friend, take time to connect with your support network over the phone, facetime, or social media. Having distance from the people you value in your life can be hard, but don’t be afraid to lean on them while you’re adjusting, and make sure to communicate both your positive and negative emotions to work out how you’re feeling.
DON’T keep it a secret. It might be hard to share negative emotions with friends or even family, or feel as though you are bringing down the energy for your fellow students abroad. But when you are feeling homesick, SHARE IT! New friends who feel the same will be thankful to not be alone, and those who don’t share the homesickness will be more than happy to help or listen.
DO join a sports team, club, or language exchange program for the perfect opportunity to find a new friend. Meeting new people comes easier with structure, and can help you integrate into your new surroundings. If these opportunities aren’t available to you, try to make a plan with a group for a regular outing, communal dinner, or Sunday morning stroll. Feeling like a part of something is one of the best aspects of studying abroad, so don’t neglect it!
DON’T turn down plans because of fears. Do you think your German isn’t good enough to go to the market, or your peers will realize your lack of knowledge regarding romantic art, or indie movies? Well too bad. I can promise, they won’t, and even if they do, the best strategy is to not be embarrassed. Being different creates opportunities to learn from those around you. Remain positive and open, and let things come to you!
DO keep up your health. Remember to get enough sleep, go on walks and runs, and drink lots of water. Try to maintain some of the normal routine you have at home, and you might find yourself quickly feeling much better!
DON’T feel trapped. You are in a new place! Feeling like you already know, or have done everything there is to do is a mistake. Instead, try asking a professor or a local for recommendations. Maybe even ask a new friend out for lunch.
DO seek support. If you’re struggling with homesickness, remember you have access to your study abroad program’s support services. Also, try to maintain the new connections and experiences you are building because someone else in your program may be feeling the same way. Talking to someone who understands what you’re going through can be all the change you need.
DON’T bottle up your emotions. At least write it down in a journal or blog. Writing your experiences and thoughts regarding your issues, your highs and lows, or even your nervousness regarding starting class can be a therapeutic and efficient way of processing your emotions and dealing with homesickness.
Feeling down is hard, and unfortunately, there is no catch all answer to it. Just remember that you are not alone, and that homesickness is a common experience for study abroad students. It’s normal to feel a sense of nostalgia for the familiar comforts of home. With time, you’ll adjust to your new surroundings and find yourself feeling at home, remembering only the good times!
